I don’t expect much:: It is an awkward conversation, but I think we all put a little too much emphasis on labels. Its all about expectations! If you’re enjoying each other’s company, he treats you well, and you’re having fun, then go with it. You just need to dictate your own rules about what you want. Be clear and direct about your feelings, and don’t be afraid of your own expectations. Being someone’s ”girl” can mean a lot of things; make sure you both know what your definition is. And eventually, you just need to let go and listen to your gut, not your brain on these things.
of course, maybe I shouldn’t dole out advice. My sorta-kinda-maybe ex boyfriend of over a year was sitting in my kitchen moping last night in a drunken mess over “us.” I gave him chicken fingers, told him to buck up, and sent him home.
LOVE YOU.
name/aim/tumblrname (if you’d like!): idk, your bff cabe?— Cabe. I fucking love you. And you’re strong. Stronger than you might think you are. I’m pretty straight forward about my feelings. I guess I’m also realizing that I’m kind of scared to move forward, and with good reason. I haven’t really had a boyfriend who didn’t live 7 hours away. I mean, Ian doesn’t count. Can we all just agree on that? So Stef really has been my only boyfriend. And he lived 7 hours away, and it was amazing, really. I don’t know how to be someone’s girlfriend at 30 minutes away. I don’t want to see him everyday. This guy told me he missed me after not seeing me after a day. I dunno if I can handle that. It’s nice, it’s really nice of him, but like… is that clingy? I don’t know. Oh, and when we’re all home for Xmas, I have a lot of things to explain. :/
I get you. SO MUCH right now. I get 100% freaked when someone does something nice for me. In fact, the nicer a person is, the more I avoid them. (How’s that for wierd) And I don’t think its clingy; I think its honest, and also what many people like. And if he doesn’t say/do those nice things, then his intentions can get jumbled. For me, when someone starts expressing their feelings, I feel a huge sense of responsibility, and thats almost always a pressure I don’t want/need/handle well- and I feel like its the pressure that is getting to you as well.
and yes, I agree Ian doesn’t count. no worries there, bro.
Please lets have girl talk every single day until I ship off for Copenhagen? I miss you guys so much :(
